I help couples work toward improved communication, feeling safe being vulnerable with one another, having a deeper and more consistent feeling of connection, and developing a sense that they really are on the same team. There is pretty much no topic that is off-limits in couples therapy. In my practice, we talk about the things that tend to make couples feel stuck: money, in-laws, work, sex, parenting, infidelity, substance use, resentments, future goals and values. Yet while finding compromise in these areas might be valuable, I also help couples recognize the deeper issues and unhelpful relationship patterns behind the content of their arguments.
It is not uncommon for couples to become stuck in an unhelpful way of relating to one another. Over time, this pattern of relating to each other can begin to eat away at the very core of the relationship. When this occurs, it can feel isolating for both partners. It can also be stressful and frustrating that the person to whom we should be going to for support seems to be the exact person who is causing our stress and frustration. At times, one or both partners might begin to question their reason for ever entering into such a relationship. Other times, things are just beginning to feel off-balance and frustrating. And in a newer relationship, a couple may just want some perspective to make sure they are on the right track. Regardless, many couples can benefit from the opportunity to gain some insight and perspective.
I am a level 2 Gottman trained couples therapist. Gottman therapy is a research-based method of couples treatment that has high efficacy rates. For more information about Gottman therapy, click here.
My approach with couples is collaborative, engaging and directive. Although couples therapy can be difficult, we can also have some fun along the way.